The short answer: DisabilityMatch is the safer starting point. It publishes its prices, verifies identity for free, and is built for disabled people who want ordinary relationships. DisabledMate does not publish a price anywhere on its public site, offers no identity verification, and its own page title describes it as a dating service "for Devotees and Disabled Singles". That last point is not an accusation. It is their wording, and it tells you who is likely to message you.
The devotee question, answered plainly
A devotee is someone attracted specifically to disability itself. Some disabled people are entirely comfortable dating devotees. Many are not, and would strongly prefer to know which kind of space they have walked into before the first message arrives rather than after.
DisabledMate is explicit about it, which is to its credit as honesty even if it is not what most people want. Its own browser page title reads "Disabled Mate | Disabled Dating Service for Devotees and Disabled Singles". The sign-up overlay on its homepage invites you to "connect with sexy singles near you". Whatever else that is, it is not a platform positioned around long-term relationships.
DisabilityMatch is positioned around dating and relationships between disabled people and people who are open to dating them. Different proposition, different inbox.
Platform overview
| Feature | DisabilityMatch | DisabledMate |
|---|---|---|
| Price | VIP from £6.99 a month, published on the pricing page | Not published. Its FAQ says to log in and choose Upgrade to see current pricing |
| Free tier | Profile, browsing, daily matches | Profile and photos, browsing, search, and up to 10 flirts to 10 different members. Messaging requires a paid membership |
| ID verification | Free Blue Tick ID verification for every member | None published. Photos are approved by a person before they appear |
| Apps | Web, mobile-optimised | No app on either store. It markets a mobile version of the website |
| Chat | On-platform messaging and matching | Chat rooms, which its FAQ says are "plugged into our system from a third party chat room" |
| Billing | Standard, on-site, cancel from your account | Auto-renews until cancelled. Cancellation routes off the site entirely, to a separate billing portal at 24-7help.net |
| Who runs it | DisabilityMatch | A white-label site whose billing runs through Online Connections INC and FBM Online Connections LTD, alongside sister sites such as disableddatingagency.com and disabledchatcity.com |
| Member numbers | 159,300+ rated members | No figure published. Its site says "thousands upon thousands of users" |
Why the missing price is the real problem
We asked its own FAQ twice, in effect, and got the same non-answer both times: to see what DisabledMate costs, you have to create an account and reach the upgrade screen. There is no figure on the public site. No currency, no tiers, no annual option shown. The named tiers, Premium, PremiumPlus and Featured Member, appear without a number attached to any of them.
Combine that with a subscription that auto-renews until you cancel, a free trial that rolls into a 30 day membership, and a cancellation path that leaves the site entirely for a third party billing portal, and that is a lot of steps between you and the answer to "how much is this?". None of it is necessarily improper. It is simply information you would want before you enter a card, not after.
DisabilityMatch's answer to that question is on a page called pricing, and it is £6.99 a month.
Where DisabledMate might suit someone
If devotee dating is what you are looking for
If you are a disabled person who actively wants to meet devotees, or a devotee looking for a space that does not pretend otherwise, DisabledMate says what it is. Being open about it is better than burying it. That is a small audience, and this page is not written for it, but it exists and it is served here.
Condition-specific entry points
It runs sub-sites by condition, including deaf and paraplegic variants, which some people find easier than filtering a general pool. The members appear to sit in the same wider network rather than in separate communities, so treat these as doors into the same room.
Where DisabilityMatch leads
You know what you are paying and who you are meeting
A published price, a free tier that does not run out after ten flirts, free ID verification with a visible badge, and a stated purpose that matches what most disabled daters actually want. None of that is exotic. It is simply the baseline, and it is a baseline DisabledMate does not meet.
Moderation you can see
DisabilityMatch runs AI behaviour monitoring with 24/7 human support behind it, and a free verified badge that tells you at a glance which profiles have been identity-checked. DisabledMate approves photos by hand and offers block and report buttons, but has no verification layer, and its chat rooms are borrowed from a third party, which means the people in the chat room are not necessarily members of the site you joined.
Which should you choose?
DisabilityMatch, for almost everyone. The price is published, the free tier is usable, ID verification is free, and the platform is built around relationships rather than around a particular interest in disability.
DisabledMate is a reasonable choice only if devotee dating is specifically what you want. If it is not, and you did not know the term before reading this page, that is exactly the reason to check a platform's own words before you sign up to it.
Our comparison of the main disabled dating sites puts DisabledMate alongside AbiliMatch, Whispers4u and Dating4Disabled in one table. You can also read DisabilityMatch against Dating4Disabled and AbiliMatch, or start with our guide to disabled dating.
Frequently asked questions
Which is better, DisabilityMatch or DisabledMate?
DisabilityMatch, for most disabled daters. It publishes its price (VIP from £6.99 a month), gives every member free Blue Tick ID verification, and is built around relationships. DisabledMate publishes no price on its public site, offers no identity verification, and its own page title describes it as a dating service for devotees and disabled singles. DisabledMate makes sense only if devotee dating is specifically what you are looking for.
How much does DisabledMate cost?
It does not say. There is no price anywhere on the public site. Its FAQ tells you to log in and select Upgrade to see current pricing. It names Premium, PremiumPlus and Featured Member tiers without attaching a figure to any of them, and confirms that subscriptions auto-renew until cancelled. You have to create an account before you can find out what you would be charged.
Is DisabledMate free?
There is a free tier, but it is narrow. Free members can create a profile, upload photos, browse, search and send up to 10 flirts to 10 different members. Sending an actual message requires a paid membership. DisabilityMatch's free Classic tier covers your profile, browsing and daily matches with no flirt cap of that kind.
What does devotee mean on DisabledMate?
A devotee is someone whose attraction is specifically to disability itself. DisabledMate's own browser page title reads "Disabled Dating Service for Devotees and Disabled Singles", so devotees are an intended part of its audience. Some disabled people are happy to date devotees. Many are not, and would rather know before they sign up. DisabilityMatch is not positioned that way.
Does DisabledMate have an app?
No. We could find no DisabledMate app on either the App Store or Google Play, and the site links to none. What it offers is a mobile version of the website, which works but is not the same thing.
Is DisabledMate a legitimate site?
It is a real, working dating site, and it publishes an anti-trafficking policy and a complaints policy. It is also a white-label site whose billing runs through Online Connections INC and FBM Online Connections LTD, with sister sites including disableddatingagency.com and disabledchatcity.com, and its cancellation route leaves the site for a separate portal at 24-7help.net. None of that makes it a scam. It does mean you should read the renewal terms carefully, and know the price before you enter a card.
Try DisabilityMatch free
Create a profile and browse 159,300+ rated members at no cost. VIP membership from £6.99 a month, and ID verification is free for everyone.
JoinHow we checked this: every figure above comes from the platform's own website, FAQ, or app store listing, read directly. Where a platform does not publish a price, a member count, or a verification method, this page says so rather than repeating a number from a review site. Prices and features change, so check the current terms before you pay for anything.