Disclosure timing in dating: we are asking our members
There is very little real data on when disabled daters choose to tell a new match about their disability. We are collecting it. This page will carry the results once the survey closes, with the methodology alongside them.
What we are asking
Disclosure timing is one part of a wider member survey we are preparing, the Disability Dating Survey. On disclosure specifically, the question is this:
When do you usually tell a new match about your disability or condition?
- It is in my profile, so they know before we match
- In messages, before we meet
- At the first meeting
- After a few dates
- I prefer not to disclose
The wider survey also asks whether members have been unmatched straight after disclosing, how often a first-date venue turns out not to be accessible in practice, which accessibility problems members hit on dating apps, whether a disability-specific site feels safer than a mainstream one, and whether members have experienced someone fetishising their disability.
How we will report the results
When the survey closes we will publish the number of people who responded, the dates it was open, and the raw count behind every percentage. We will state plainly that respondents chose to take part rather than being randomly sampled, because that is what a survey run through a website is, and it changes how the findings should be read.
We will not weight the results or report a breakdown the sample is too small to support. Where a question does not attract enough responses to say anything meaningful, we will say so and leave it out rather than stretch it.
Every question is optional, and the survey does not ask for anything that identifies you.
Correction
This page previously showed a disclosure poll with a response total and a percentage for each answer. Those figures were sample content created when the site was built rather than responses from DisabilityMatch members, and they have been removed.